Is it me or my social networking site?
There’s speculation that because we can tell our large, or small world, of family and friends what we’re up to at any given moment, that we aren’t really making meaningful connections with one another. We no longer have person to person, face to face conversations that matter. I did agree with that idea, but woke at one a.m. thinking, it’s not the vehicle, it’s the people.
If I don’t have or make connections with people every day or even once a year, that doesn’t preclude that I never will or never have. I have a grown daughter who does not allow ‘parental types’ on her FB page. That’s alright with me. When we see each other, I make a point of sharing with her a bit of who I am, what I think of outside of being a mom, and the work I love. Wonderfully enough, she returns the favor, trusting I will listen, and not rush to judge.
However, that doesn’t happen simply because we are face to face. We have meaningful conversations over the phone as well, because we’ve built a trust enough to say what’s really in our thoughts. I can and do have similar conversations with other people in my life, who happen to be on my social networking site, and, a couple of them I have only met once, and one or two I’ve yet to meet. We have built this for one another and use it to bridge any distance. Sometimes it will be months between nice long chats or emails, but when these communications happen, they mean the world to me.
That’s when I realized it doesn’t matter if I literally see a person once a week at a family dinner, or everyday at work, or only in person once a month. How honest we are about what we love, and how we support each others goals in life, is up to us. Before all of the technological goodies came along, people could have stood around the town hall, saloon, or sat in a knitting circle and talked about a whole lot of nothing. I’ve decided to converse with people on a particular level, in any forum, takes cultivating.